It's been at least a few years since I've posted here, and certainly more since I was active in this group. Unfortunately, I'm stuck with Google groups at the moment and it's hard to find the relevant posts within all the crap. I tried to set up a personal ng thing, but the lady I talked to with my internet provider doesn't even know what a 'newsgroup' is. How annoying.
So, I haven't been able to see if there is anyone I recognize still around. If not, I will quickly introduce myself.
I first joined this ng in 2001 when I found out I was pregnant with my first child. Tabi was born Oct. 4th, and passed away Oct. 15th. My second pregnancy, spring 2003, ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks. Shortly after, I left my husband.
Since then, I've spent the last few years with the biggest "what the hell was I thinking????" idiot. I am now entering a new relationship with someone who is wonderful.
Which brings me here. No. I'm not pregnant. :P Not too long ago I assumed I would not have the family I've always wanted. It was difficult to accept. I cried a lot. I had just figured that by the time I found someone I was willing to spend the rest of my life with it would be too late (for me - I don't want to ttc after 40, personal reasons). That's only 2 years (and one month) away.
Well, in walked my current boyfriend. Funny, I have known him for about a year. And literally, he walked into work one day and my tummy did a flipflop when I saw him. I haven't stopped thinking about him since. We've been together for only 2 months now. The physical chemistry is amazing. (Yowza!!) But I do think we have what it takes to go beyond that.
Lately, I've been thinking about that 'family thing' again. Obviously, it's far too early to have any discussions with him about it, and he might not completely understand (being male). Right now, I'm not really here to discuss ttc (hopefully one day). The biggest thing that is worrying me is my age I guess. If he and I do take it to that level of involvement (... that sounds so clinical and unromantic! You know what I mean!) I would really like people to chat with, and I was very comfortable here before.
So I guess that's that for now. Need to get ready for work.
> So I guess that's that for now. Need to get ready for work.
OMG! It's good to read you :-) I was here when you lost your baby and I think about you every now and then. I'm glad you're doing well.
Sam is 7, nearly 8 now and I had Sara almost a year ago. I don't know if you remember me, I don't even know if I was posting or just reading (just reading being very unlikely seeing as I have a big mouth and usually feel the need to tell the world what I'm thinking ;-) ) back then.
spectr...@hotmail.com wrote: > So, I haven't been able to see if there is anyone I recognize still > around.
I'm still here...welcome back!
> Lately, I've been thinking about that 'family thing' again. > Obviously, it's far too early to have any discussions with him about > it, and he might not completely understand (being male). Right now, > I'm not really here to discuss ttc (hopefully one day). The biggest > thing that is worrying me is my age I guess. If he and I do take it > to that level of involvement (... that sounds so clinical and > unromantic! You know what I mean!) I would really like people to chat > with, and I was very comfortable here before.
Sadly, substantive traffic has been low here for a while, but I imagine some old regulars are still around and just not posting much for lack of questions to answer since most of us aren't pregnant and haven't been pregnant in a while (my youngest is now five--ack!--and she's definitely the end of the line for us!).
I'm not sure what to say on the age thing. I was... hmmm...36 when my last was born. The pregnancy was more challenging than the earlier ones (no troubles, just more aches and pains and such), but I'm past 40 now and still keeping up, one way or another! ;-)
Hi Spectre! I remember you! Welcome back. If you haven't been here since 2003, you may not know that I have two kids -- Taylor, born 1/3/03, and Addie, born 9/30/04, both via open adoption.
Good luck with your new man. I hope he's a keeper.
> It's been at least a few years since I've posted here, and certainly > more since I was active in this group. Unfortunately, I'm stuck with > Google groups at the moment and it's hard to find the relevant posts > within all the crap. I tried to set up a personal ng thing, but the > lady I talked to with my internet provider doesn't even know what a > 'newsgroup' is. How annoying.
> So, I haven't been able to see if there is anyone I recognize still > around. If not, I will quickly introduce myself.
> I first joined this ng in 2001 when I found out I was pregnant with my > first child. Tabi was born Oct. 4th, and passed away Oct. 15th. My > second pregnancy, spring 2003, ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks. > Shortly after, I left my husband.
> Since then, I've spent the last few years with the biggest "what the > hell was I thinking????" idiot. I am now entering a new relationship > with someone who is wonderful.
> Which brings me here. No. I'm not pregnant. :P Not too long ago I > assumed I would not have the family I've always wanted. It was > difficult to accept. I cried a lot. I had just figured that by the > time I found someone I was willing to spend the rest of my life with > it would be too late (for me - I don't want to ttc after 40, personal > reasons). That's only 2 years (and one month) away.
> Well, in walked my current boyfriend. Funny, I have known him for > about a year. And literally, he walked into work one day and my tummy > did a flipflop when I saw him. I haven't stopped thinking about him > since. We've been together for only 2 months now. The physical > chemistry is amazing. (Yowza!!) But I do think we have what it takes > to go beyond that.
> Lately, I've been thinking about that 'family thing' again. > Obviously, it's far too early to have any discussions with him about > it, and he might not completely understand (being male). Right now, > I'm not really here to discuss ttc (hopefully one day). The biggest > thing that is worrying me is my age I guess. If he and I do take it > to that level of involvement (... that sounds so clinical and > unromantic! You know what I mean!) I would really like people to chat > with, and I was very comfortable here before.
> So I guess that's that for now. Need to get ready for work.
Hi Spectre. I don't remember you. I guess I came on after you drifted away.
For what it's worth, I started having kids when I was older than you are now. And for me that turns out to have been a good thing. Both are very bright, healthy, happy, wonderful children, and I am at a point in my life where I can "stay home" with them and still do quite a lot of the work I enjoy. The younger one had a horrible fetal tumor (you can read about that in this newsgroup's archive, if you are interested), which was quite a rollercoaster ride, thankyouverymuch. Here I was worried about my "advanced" age increasing the risk of defective chromosomes and pregnancy complications, and I had a baby with a major problem NOT related to maternal age. I am glad I had her in my 40's and not earlier, because I am so much more able to cope now than I would have been 20 years ago. (And because if the tumor comes back, chemotherapy now is so much better than it was 20 years ago.)
Deciding whether or not to have children is very hard for many people, especially older and wiser ones. :-) More than a few people in our parents' generation have remarked to me how they never even thought about it. It was just something they were expected to do, so they did it. The world has changed.
> It's been at least a few years since I've posted here, and certainly > more since I was active in this group. Unfortunately, I'm stuck with > Google groups at the moment and it's hard to find the relevant posts > within all the crap. I tried to set up a personal ng thing, but the > lady I talked to with my internet provider doesn't even know what a > 'newsgroup' is. How annoying.
> So, I haven't been able to see if there is anyone I recognize still > around. If not, I will quickly introduce myself.
> I first joined this ng in 2001 when I found out I was pregnant with my > first child. Tabi was born Oct. 4th, and passed away Oct. 15th. My > second pregnancy, spring 2003, ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks. > Shortly after, I left my husband.
> Since then, I've spent the last few years with the biggest "what the > hell was I thinking????" idiot. I am now entering a new relationship > with someone who is wonderful.
> Which brings me here. No. I'm not pregnant. :P Not too long ago I > assumed I would not have the family I've always wanted. It was > difficult to accept. I cried a lot. I had just figured that by the > time I found someone I was willing to spend the rest of my life with > it would be too late (for me - I don't want to ttc after 40, personal > reasons). That's only 2 years (and one month) away.
> Well, in walked my current boyfriend. Funny, I have known him for > about a year. And literally, he walked into work one day and my tummy > did a flipflop when I saw him. I haven't stopped thinking about him > since. We've been together for only 2 months now. The physical > chemistry is amazing. (Yowza!!) But I do think we have what it takes > to go beyond that.
> Lately, I've been thinking about that 'family thing' again. > Obviously, it's far too early to have any discussions with him about > it, and he might not completely understand (being male). Right now, > I'm not really here to discuss ttc (hopefully one day). The biggest > thing that is worrying me is my age I guess. If he and I do take it > to that level of involvement (... that sounds so clinical and > unromantic! You know what I mean!) I would really like people to chat > with, and I was very comfortable here before.
> So I guess that's that for now. Need to get ready for work.
> xo
> Spectre
Hi Spectre! It's good to hear from you. I've often wondered how you're doing. I've now got 2 girls and a 1 yo boy. I was really frightened about ttc for #3 after #2 was born without a left hand. I know that's not in the same frame as what you've been through, but I understand how you're feeling there. Good luck! Debbie
> It's been at least a few years since I've posted here, and certainly > more since I was active in this group. Unfortunately, I'm stuck with > Google groups at the moment and it's hard to find the relevant posts > within all the crap. I tried to set up a personal ng thing, but the > lady I talked to with my internet provider doesn't even know what a > 'newsgroup' is. How annoying.
> So, I haven't been able to see if there is anyone I recognize still > around. If not, I will quickly introduce myself.
> I first joined this ng in 2001 when I found out I was pregnant with my > first child. Tabi was born Oct. 4th, and passed away Oct. 15th. My > second pregnancy, spring 2003, ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks. > Shortly after, I left my husband.
> Since then, I've spent the last few years with the biggest "what the > hell was I thinking????" idiot. I am now entering a new relationship > with someone who is wonderful.
> Which brings me here. No. I'm not pregnant. :P Not too long ago I > assumed I would not have the family I've always wanted. It was > difficult to accept. I cried a lot. I had just figured that by the > time I found someone I was willing to spend the rest of my life with > it would be too late (for me - I don't want to ttc after 40, personal > reasons). That's only 2 years (and one month) away.
> Well, in walked my current boyfriend. Funny, I have known him for > about a year. And literally, he walked into work one day and my tummy > did a flipflop when I saw him. I haven't stopped thinking about him > since. We've been together for only 2 months now. The physical > chemistry is amazing. (Yowza!!) But I do think we have what it takes > to go beyond that.
> Lately, I've been thinking about that 'family thing' again. > Obviously, it's far too early to have any discussions with him about > it, and he might not completely understand (being male). Right now, > I'm not really here to discuss ttc (hopefully one day). The biggest > thing that is worrying me is my age I guess. If he and I do take it > to that level of involvement (... that sounds so clinical and > unromantic! You know what I mean!) I would really like people to chat > with, and I was very comfortable here before.
> So I guess that's that for now. Need to get ready for work.
> xo
> Spectre
Hey Spectre!
I've thought about you off and on over the last almost 7 years. ((hugs))
I mostly lurk anymore myself, but am hoping to have more to say/ question soon. Alexander will be 7 in September and starting 2nd grade. I'm here--had another miscarriage myself in 2004. Not officially ttc at this point, but we're thinking maybe in September or so. I'm struggling with the thoughts of such a large age gap, starting "over" with babies and feeling much older physically than I was feeling at 25 with Alexander (I know, I'm not "old" yet, but I'm starting to feel that way). On the other hand, we're much more financially secure at this point (although we thought we were before, and life had other laughs about a month after we conceived), and it would be nice to have one very planned baby. ;-) Partly why we haven't ttc prior to now is the fear of miscarriage (I've had 2), the fear of having another preemie/physical complications, and also the fear of getting another child who just doesn't sleep longer than 2.5 hours at a time! ;-)
spectr...@hotmail.com wrote: > Well, in walked my current boyfriend. Funny, I have known him for > about a year. And literally, he walked into work one day and my tummy > did a flipflop when I saw him. I haven't stopped thinking about him > since. We've been together for only 2 months now. The physical > chemistry is amazing. (Yowza!!) But I do think we have what it takes > to go beyond that.
Hi Spectre!
That sounds so exciting.
I do remember you from when you posted. I lurk mostly since there isn't much traffic and I think I'm done being pregnant. I have 4 boys now. My oldest is 9yo.
It is good to see you here and I wish only the best for you and that you have the family you want/deserve!
spectr...@hotmail.com wrote: > Lately, I've been thinking about that 'family thing' again. > Obviously, it's far too early to have any discussions with him about > it, and he might not completely understand (being male). Right now, > I'm not really here to discuss ttc (hopefully one day). The biggest > thing that is worrying me is my age I guess. If he and I do take it > to that level of involvement (... that sounds so clinical and > unromantic! You know what I mean!) I would really like people to chat > with, and I was very comfortable here before.
> So I guess that's that for now. Need to get ready for work.
> xo
> Spectre
I remember you, though since I mostly lurked, you wouldn't remember me. I've had babies at 33, 36, 39 and 42 and miscarriages between the second and third and third and fourth. I've been worried about my age with each baby, and have been thankful to have healthy babies.
My current baby just learned to roll over and is a joy. I'm happy to be an older mom. It is easy to ignore the advice I don't want at this age.
Thanks everyone. I do remember some of you! A very belated congratulations to the not-so-new-now babies. :)
It seems my PMS is here today. It's going to be off and on until AF arrives. Grrrrr. So it's probably best I don't type anything and keep my silly rants to myself. I mean, do I really have a valid reason to be mad at the bookshelf??
I'll be back when the bookshelf and I kiss and make up. :P
