I had my first OB appointment a week ago Monday. All went fine, nothing unusual,nothing spectacular. EDD is still marked for Feb 7 '09. I did ask my OB, though, about DD2 and her still breastfeeding. It was at the very end, just as she was walking out the door. I simply said that DD2 is still nursing, although not very much, and if this is ok or not. Dr said she recommends DD2 stops nursing completely. I didn't get a chance to go further or ask why or whatever. Should she stop nursing? I do know very few people personally that have nursed while pregnant and did the tandem nursing thing. The fact that my OB straight up said stop nursing is why I'm asking here, hoping someone might have a little info on it. I know someone earlier recommended a book about tandem nursing/nursing while PG, but I just really don't have the time or ability to sit down and read a book. I just don't have that luxury anymore LOL DD2 nurses seldom. Usually first thing in the morning, sometimes before nap time, on occasion before supper, guaranteed each time she's sad/hurt/whatever and before bed. Rather than just cut her off completely, I've just sort of not offered. I haven't asked her if she wants to nurse, but if she asks, we do nurse. She's 21 months in just a couple days now. She asks for boobies and gets them, but I no longer ask her if she wants, so I find that I offer more than she asks. Should I just let her wean completely like that? Or should I keep going and offering? She never turns down an offer ;)
> I know someone earlier recommended a book about tandem nursing/nursing while > PG, but I just really don't have the time or ability to sit down and read a > book. I just don't have that luxury anymore LOL
I read while nursing in bed. It's the only thing I can do during that time except sleep, maybe that's an option, just a thought, because I thought I'd never be able to read again back when Sam was still little.
> DD2 nurses seldom. Usually first thing in the morning, sometimes before nap > time, on occasion before supper, guaranteed each time she's > sad/hurt/whatever and before bed. > Rather than just cut her off completely, I've just sort of not offered. I > haven't asked her if she wants to nurse, but if she asks, we do nurse. > She's 21 months in just a couple days now. She asks for boobies and gets > them, but I no longer ask her if she wants, so I find that I offer more than > she asks. Should I just let her wean completely like that? Or should I > keep going and offering? She never turns down an offer ;)
Personally I'd keep nursing if you fell comfortable with the thought of possibly tandem nursing. If you feel kind of meh about that I'd see about her weaning "on her own" with a little help from you, i.e. offering something else instead of nursing when she's sad/hurt/whatever. I'd just offer cuddles/reading a book or something and if she insists on nursing I'd still nurse, but if she's ok with your alternative that might be worth a shot. Once the baby's here it might be really hard for her to wean if you decide tandem nursing is not for you (then again it might not be, sadly kids don't come with a manual though I sure wish there was a FAQ section).
Kat wrote: > I had my first OB appointment a week ago Monday. > All went fine, nothing unusual,nothing spectacular. EDD is still marked for > Feb 7 '09.
Congrats :)
> I did ask my OB, though, about DD2 and her still breastfeeding. It was at > the very end, just as she was walking out the door. > I simply said that DD2 is still nursing, although not very much, and if this > is ok or not. Dr said she recommends DD2 stops nursing completely.
My doctor said it was perfectly fine and to do whatever I wanted. My first pregnancy was full term without complications. I nursed my first son the first 5mos I was pregnant with my second. This did not cause any problems for me. He was nursing multiple times a day too.
She asks for boobies and gets
> them, but I no longer ask her if she wants, so I find that I offer more than > she asks. Should I just let her wean completely like that? Or should I > keep going and offering? She never turns down an offer ;)
I was ready for my son to wean so I never offered, lol. If you want her to wean this will be a relatively easy time to do so. Just don't ever offer. As your pregnancy progresses there is a high probability that your milk supply will dwindle markedly and she'll probably self wean then if you make an effort to provide her with milk or snacks during the time she usually asks to nurse. I found it miserable to nurse while pregnant but some people want to keep nursing soooo.....then keep offering :)
> I did ask my OB, though, about DD2 and her still breastfeeding. It was at > the very end, just as she was walking out the door. > I simply said that DD2 is still nursing, although not very much, and if > this is ok or not. Dr said she recommends DD2 stops nursing completely. > I didn't get a chance to go further or ask why or whatever. > Should she stop nursing? I do know very few people personally that have > nursed while pregnant and did the tandem nursing thing.
I nursed my older son all through my 2nd pregnancy and had no problems whatsoever. I tandem nursed the two boys for 6 months before weaning Alexander. I plan on tandem nursing any further children we have as well. You should do what you're comfortable with.
This is one of those questions that I think is better left unasked, unless you are looking for permission to wean your daughter. It seems like so many doctors are not as pro breastfeeding as they purport to be, and will tell a woman to stop for a myriad of reasons -- pregnancy, meds, illness, whatever.
I say follow your gut and do what you are ready to do. If that means weaning your daughter by not offering the breast any longer, then do that. If that means continuing to offer the breast at all the regular times and continuing the breastfeeding relationship for now, then do that. I don't think that there is any medical reason that you HAVE to stop breastfeeding your daughter, unless you are super high risk or something. --
>> I did ask my OB, though, about DD2 and her still breastfeeding. It was >> at the very end, just as she was walking out the door. >> I simply said that DD2 is still nursing, although not very much, and if >> this is ok or not. Dr said she recommends DD2 stops nursing completely. >> I didn't get a chance to go further or ask why or whatever. >> Should she stop nursing? I do know very few people personally that have >> nursed while pregnant and did the tandem nursing thing.
> I nursed my older son all through my 2nd pregnancy and had no problems > whatsoever. I tandem nursed the two boys for 6 months before weaning > Alexander. I plan on tandem nursing any further children we have as well. > You should do what you're comfortable with.
My little one is about the same age and still nursing a little. I am 99% ready to stop. I think she is not ready to stop, but approaching that point. My older one weaned himself at 9 months, much to my surprise.
When the new baby arrives, some older nurslings want to nurse more, like the baby, but others quit cold turkey because they are big girls and boys not babies. How you should proceed now depends on your own preferences and on what you think your nursling needs and how she is likely to react to whatever you do to wean her. A consultation with a La Leche League mentor probably would be helpful.
I'm only 5 weeks along but just saw my OB and mentioned nursing my 2yo and he didn't bat an eye.
I'm in the 'don't offer, don't refuse' stage. Oddly, DD had really cut back on nursing (less than 1x/day) until this weekend, now she wants to nurse a lot more. I am not sure if she senses something different or if it's just a comfort thing because her Papa is away (she has been an extreme Daddy's girl lately...). Other than it being slightly annoying, it's not a problem.
now nursing will make your uterus contract, so if you've had a problem with pre-term labor in the past, there could be reason to stop nursing. otherwise it's perfectly fine.
> I'm only 5 weeks along but just saw my OB and mentioned nursing my 2yo > and he didn't bat an eye.
> I'm in the 'don't offer, don't refuse' stage. Oddly, DD had really cut > back on nursing (less than 1x/day) until this weekend, now she wants > to nurse a lot more. I am not sure if she senses something different > or if it's just a comfort thing
My milk supply goes way down by about 5 weeks. Each time (5 times now) my nursling has nursed a lot more for a while until he/she adapted to the lower milk supply and the fact that the supply and demand system no longer worked to provide an ample supply.
> Kat schrieb: > <snip> >> I know someone earlier recommended a book about tandem nursing/nursing >> while PG, but I just really don't have the time or ability to sit down >> and read a book. I just don't have that luxury anymore LOL
> I read while nursing in bed. It's the only thing I can do during that time > except sleep, maybe that's an option, just a thought, because I thought > I'd never be able to read again back when Sam was still little.
>> DD2 nurses seldom. Usually first thing in the morning, sometimes before >> nap time, on occasion before supper, guaranteed each time she's >> sad/hurt/whatever and before bed. >> Rather than just cut her off completely, I've just sort of not offered. >> I haven't asked her if she wants to nurse, but if she asks, we do nurse. >> She's 21 months in just a couple days now. She asks for boobies and gets >> them, but I no longer ask her if she wants, so I find that I offer more >> than she asks. Should I just let her wean completely like that? Or >> should I keep going and offering? She never turns down an offer ;)
> Personally I'd keep nursing if you fell comfortable with the thought of > possibly tandem nursing. If you feel kind of meh about that I'd see about > her weaning "on her own" with a little help from you, i.e. offering > something else instead of nursing when she's sad/hurt/whatever. I'd just > offer cuddles/reading a book or something and if she insists on nursing > I'd still nurse, but if she's ok with your alternative that might be worth > a shot. > Once the baby's here it might be really hard for her to wean if you decide > tandem nursing is not for you (then again it might not be, sadly kids > don't come with a manual though I sure wish there was a FAQ section).
> cu > nicole
Well, DD2 is still my "baby" - of all of them, she's the only one that is clingy, needy... I still can't usually walk out of the room without her being a little less than impressed... I'm sure I baby her, or something (everyone points out what a big suck she is lol!) and I know DS completely self weaned around 18 months. He was the longest (aside from DD2) with nursing. The others don't care if I'm here or there. They never did. I could easily leave them or walk out of the room and they wouldn't care - DD2, OTOH, is completely opposite! I do enjoy the nursing still. I can't see it being a huge deal to keep going, if I/DD2 wants to - if it was a huge issue, I'd think that my OB would stop in her tracks, tell me to stop and tell me why to stop - which she didn't do. She just said stop, end of story. Sometimes DD2 does get a little... interesting... She's known to pull at my shirt, and sometimes draw a big scene about it lol I hear enough of "BOOBIE!" and have enough of her pulling at me to help herself that it's a pain to not do it - and I do still enjoy it. She's the only really cuddly one at this point, still, and it gives me an opportunity to (obviously) keep an eye on her, sit down, relax and have her calm down too. Maybe I'll just keep going with the not offer/not refuse idea. It seems to go fairly well and it's fairly easy. It's not like she's still relying on breast milk for her main or only source of nutrition.
>> I'm only 5 weeks along but just saw my OB and mentioned nursing my 2yo >> and he didn't bat an eye.
>> I'm in the 'don't offer, don't refuse' stage. Oddly, DD had really cut >> back on nursing (less than 1x/day) until this weekend, now she wants >> to nurse a lot more. I am not sure if she senses something different >> or if it's just a comfort thing
> My milk supply goes way down by about 5 weeks. Each time (5 times now) my > nursling has nursed a lot more for a while until he/she adapted to the > lower milk supply and the fact that the supply and demand system no longer > worked to provide an ample supply.
My supply varied during pregnancy. #1 was 3yo when #2 was born so she used to comment. At about 5 weeks she said it tasted "funny" but still liked it. My supply went down round 23-30 weeks. Round 25ish weeks she commented there was no milk, but a week later it had returned. She didn't like the taste of the milk after #2 was born. She self weaned about a month after #2 was born. I did find my nipples got sore quickly for feeding, particularly when the milk supply was low. Debbie
